Vaginismus care, 1:1 and online across the UK
From a registered nurse specialising in pelvic floor function
Whether you've been diagnosed or you're starting to wonder if it's vaginismus, you don't have to work through it on your own. I'm Emma and I work only with women who have vaginismus, 1:1 for three months, with weekly calls and support in between for when you feel anxious or confused.
A 45 minute call for women ready to commit to three months.
How the 3-month programme works
FREE VAGINISMUS GUIDE
The drawer, the tampon and the night you said not tonight
Three moments women with vaginismus know well, what your pelvic floor is doing in each one and one small thing you can try.
What you have already been told
Most women come to The Pelvic Floor Clinic having been told:
“Your scan is normal, so there is nothing wrong.”
“You are probably just stressed.”
“Try to relax more.”
“Have a glass of wine first.”
“Use more lubricant.”
“Just push through the pain.”
You might have a name for your symptoms and maybe a leaflet, but feel lost with how to work with your pelvic floor, or what to do when it doesn’t go to plan.
That’s the part I work on with you.
WHAT VAGINISMUS IS
A reflex that has learned to expect pain
Vaginismus is your pelvic floor tightening at the entrance whenever something is about to go in, a tampon, a finger, a speculum or a partner. You don't choose it and you can't stop it by trying harder, because it happens before you've had a chance to think.
Your body has learned to expect pain, so it tightens before anything arrives, and every painful attempt teaches it to tighten sooner. Breaking that loop means working on the muscle and the expectation together.
Primary vaginismus
Penetration has always been painful or impossible, from the first time you tried a tampon or had sex. Your body has never had the chance to learn that it can feel comfortable.
Secondary vaginismus
Penetration used to be comfortable and then it changed, often after birth, surgery, an infection, menopause or a painful experience. Your body has learned to brace where it never used to.
In their words
“Being told I have vaginismus was a bit of a shock, but if I was to pinpoint one thing that has been the biggest support with managing it, I would easily say that working with a pelvic floor nurse has to be my number one.”
“Reaching out to [Emma] was my first step to managing this and it was the best decision I could've made. To anyone looking for support with vaginismus symptoms, I 100% recommend Emma and am so grateful for her support.”
“[I've seen] improvement of the tone of pelvic floor muscles and now no discomfort during intercourse.”
“I have my self esteem back and life is restored.”
“I approached Emma during a very difficult time with dilators. I was in a lot of pain daily and dilating was a battle I wasn't winning. Emma took the time to listen, understand my body, my history, current symptoms and how my mind works, all things that are so important in supporting someone with MRKH. I felt truly listened to, and over time with her continued guidance, treatment plan and understanding, dilating became less unbearable and more manageable. With Emma's support I was able to achieve the vaginal length I needed for my next steps. I'm so grateful to have had Emma in my corner.”
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